he cracks me up

D., in the bath, playing with his knight and castle bath toys (we got these in Chicago and used them to bribe him to wash his hair. Not sure how to top this; we may have to resort to offering him cash): "This knight just got killed."

Papa: "I don't like killing."

D.: "He didn't get killed. He died because he was old. And an arrow went through him."

Observation 1: At least he knows what his parents values are even if he hasn't completely absorbed them.

Observation 2: That y chromosome has a pretty strong influence. Parenthood has made me renounce long-held convictions in the nature-nuture debate.

I will start to work on my Chicago and BlogHer updates, pics and observations tomorrow, after the Demerol wears off.

Until then, you can find the first batch of photos at Flickr.
I'm nowhere near done but wanted to share. Please excuse all the pictures of the jelly bean in Millenium Park. We really liked that thing.

Actually, I really liked it but my spouse LOVED it. I had to drag him away to get food, as he protested, "I want to get more pics of the bean!"

home is where my heart is

I crawled into my hotel room (near the Toronto airport)at 2:00 this morning. I spent the last several hours of my trip looking forward to being able to take this pic of my beautiful sleeping son (my spouse and the boys were at T.'s brother's place for the last few days. My oldest stayed on to hang with his cousins and my spouse and youngest son checked into the hotel near the airport ahead of me).

He woke me at dawn with a joyful cry, as he hopped into my bed and went back to sleep on my pillow.

When he was cuddling with me a little (OK, a few hours) later, his papa asked him if he was happy his mama was home.

"I was happy to see her this morning. I'm happier now that she's awake."

We're home now.

Chemo tomorrow.

I have so much I want to share with all of you but I really do need to go to bed.

o'hare: my new home away from home

I arrived with a half-empty suitcase. I left Chicago with a bag so full of BlogHer swag ("stuff we all get") that I had to pay a twenty-five dollar fee. If I had known, I would have left the plastic martini glass and the box of shampoo samples behind.

I ordered a beer with my dinner in the restaurant. For the first time since I can remember, I was asked for ID. I said, "Really? You've just made my day! I'm turning 40 on Saturday!"

I gave myself plenty of time so that I wouldn't have to rush when I got here. I needn't have bothered. My flight has been delayed. I will arrive, as I left, in the wee hours.

grateful (a post before I leave for the Chicago airport)

I owe you lots of updates (and I have pics!) but I just wanted to say a heartfelt thank you to all of you who made this trip possible.

My dear friends and family,

I had a wonderful time at the BlogHer conference, made all the more special by the fact that this trip was given to me by people who love me. I don't actually have the words to convey how meaningful your gift has been (not to mention the fact that I would not have been able to pay for it!).

And I should tell you all that I told the story many times over the last few days of how my friends gave me the trip to BlogHer as a 40th birthday present. They were always touched (some even got shivers and tears in their eyes). My 10 second post was even part of a slide show at the beginning of the conference.

I have a friend who often speaks about being a lucky person. I am so lucky to be here. I am lucky to know each of you. I am just really freakin' lucky.

much love,
L.

today was a very good day

Live blogging went out the window pretty quickly.

I am exhausted.

So glad I'm here.

Today was a very good day.

A Comprehensive and Independent Progress Report on the Massachusetts Health Plan

The Center for Studying Health System Change has issued a comprehensive report on the progress of the Massachusetts health reform plan.Anyone interested in the plan's progress will find this must reading.From their overview:As Massachusetts' landmark effort to reach nearly universal health coverage continues, affordability of coverage remains a key concern for individuals and small

liveblogging from BlogHer part 2: compromised

We just finished an icebreaker session that left my head spinning. I really need to get business cards. I may be the only one here without them.

And I know I'm mad at Yahoo(they capitulated to outrageous censorship and oppression in China) but I just grabbed some swag (paper clips and jelly beans), as well as a free Americano. Apparently, I can be bought, when decent coffee is involved.

I am now attending a session on online communities.

wish u were here (first post from BlogHer)

What the fuck am I doing here?

I am back in high school, except less confident. I have become such an introvert.

The one person to whom I told the title of my blog, said, "That's heavy." (I replied that no, it's not).

So...I really do miss you, my online homies. I miss my IRL ('in real life') friends and family but it's my online community, the folks who always have my virtual back who I wish were here.

Especially, my sister activist, smartass, creative cancer bloggers.

Ok, so it's only 9:30. You can laugh at me when I have settled in and am doing fine.

But right now, I am freaking out.

Health Wonk Review for July 26, 2007

This time it's my turn to host Health Wonk Review, a compendium of some of the best health care policy and market posts from the health care blog world.Joe Paduda seemingly gave up his extra summer time researching the arguments against universal coverage. Joe digs into the logical, philosophical, and political issues; there's also a great summary. With all the recent attention to other nation's

i love chicago

And I have a crick in my neck from looking up at all the beautiful buildings. I promise to write a lengthier report (with pics) in the near future, but this is what we've been up to:,

Yesterday, while functioning on very little sleep, we went on an architectural boat tour and hung out in Millenium Park.

Today, we went to the amazing Art Instituteof Chicago and had an indescribable meal at Frontera Grill.

I am full, happy and tired.

update to 10 seconds

It occurred to me in the wee hours (my body is still very confused, having awakened at 4:00 am yesterday) that if I had written my blurb two years ago, a mention of my work would have been near the top of my list.

I was definitely someone who defined myself by the work I did (research/communications for a public sector union).

Cancer has made me re-define myself.

I miss working.

But the silver lining here (other than a renewed appreciation for the myriad other good things in my life) is that if it weren't for the cancer I would not have re-discovered my love for writing.

Which is something else I should have mentioned in my 10 second blurb.

10 seconds for BlogHer

blogme2007

My friends gave me this trip to Chicago as a 40th birthday present.

My birthday is on August 4th.

I am a full-time cancer patient, living a really full life.

I have been with my spouse for more than 16 years.

It was NOT love at first sight.

I must not have been wearing my glasses.

My sons are as different as two boys can be, except that they are both brilliant, beautiful and loving.

They also drive me crazy and I love them to distraction.

I love Scrabble, wine, dark chocolate, knitting and a really good book.

I love the way my dog smells.

I am completely bilingual in French and English.

I am happy.

This was more than 10 seconds.

chicago bound!

I am writing from a hotel near the Toronto airport. The kids are with Grandma and my spouse and I leave for the airport before dawn. We are both going on points, on different flights and to and from different terminals. Should make for some interesting logistics on almost no sleep (I am anticipating insomnia. Perhaps I will be proven wrong).

T. will be with me until Friday when BlogHer begins!

I can't believe I am going.

I am a very lucky person.

Romney Condemns Obama's Health Plan--But Obama's Plan is a Clone of the Massachusetts Plan Romney Signed!

Mitt Romney criticized Barack Obama's health care proposal over the weekend in New Hampshire. According to The Baltimore Sun, Romney said, "Barack Obama said we're going to have the government take over health care. He at least had the integrity to say he wants to raise your taxes." He added, "The right answer is not a government takeover, it's not socialized medicine. It's not Hillarycare."

Massachusetts Expected to Further Backpedal on its Individual Mandate

The Boston Globe is reporting that the Massachusetts legislature "will probably make changes" to the new health care law that could well include capping what a person has to pay for health insurance at 10% before the individual mandate law can be enforced.Presumably, this would mean a family with a household income of $50,000 per year would have to pay no more than $5,000. I fear that is still

New York AG Objects to Insurer's Method for Ranking Doctors by Cost and Quality--Just What We Need in Health Metrics--Lawyers

At the core of any market-based ability to control costs--pay-for-performance or consumer-driven care--is the notion that patients and payers have information available to them on a health care provider's cost and quality results.Too often the health plan rhetoric--or marketing brochures--have got out ahead of anyone's real ability to measure cost and quality both accurately and in a way that is

incremental renewal

So the question I have been asking myself since my amazing CT report is "What now?" How is my life going to change? What does this mean for my future?

I'll no more (I hope) when I next see my medical oncologist on August 15th. I do know that I will be continuing chemo (I am hoping, although no one has promised me anything, for this reduced schedule to continue) and that we are still assuming I have cancer.

Everything has changed yet nothing has changed. I have found myself asking, once again, "Is that all there is?"

I need to feel like I am moving forward. And, so I decided to re-commit myself to becoming as fit, strong and healthy as I possibly can.

Many things have changed in recent months, in terms of how I take care of myself. And I have a naturopath, a physiotherapist and a massage therapist who all advise me on ways to feel stronger and healthier (and I really do think that they have helped me enormously).

It can be a little overwhelming. I take more supplements (at different times of day) than you can shake a stick at, and have a list of foods (both proscribed and prescribed) several pages long. I have stretches and strengthening exercises (for lymphedema, my frozen shoulder and to develop some strength in my core).

And there is not one day that I have managed to get it all done.

And when I decided to re-commit myself, my track record on these matters actually got worse.

Clearly, a new approach was needed. I decided to implement changes gradually, on a weekly basis.

This week, I decided to ban salt (bad for lymphedema) and sugar (it's pretty much poison) from my diet. This wasn't so hard to do, since I don't count dark chocolate and both sucanat and maple syrup are permitted in small quantities (although I don't think the container of organic maple yogurt I ate counts as a small quantity). I also remembered all of my supplements almost every day.

I also promised myself to do the stretching exercises prescribed by my physiotherapist. I was somewhat succesful, in that I did more stretching than I have been doing (which is none). I did not meet my goal of stretching every day.

Next week, I commit to continuing the above and to eat seven servings of vegetables every day (I have not been doing to badly at this, but I suspect that this will be much more of a challenge when I am away from home). I will also implement the new, Pilates based exercise programme my physio has put together (we are starting slowly but this will be a major accomplishment to achieve while travelling.

Why am I telling you this? Because, as with the yarn diet, I need you to keep me honest.

I'll let you know how I do.

Bush Reaffirms Veto Threat Over SCHIP Despite Strong Republican Support for Bipartisan Compromise—What’s Really Going On Here?

The most exasperated person in Washington has to be Senator Chuck Grassley (R-IA). The Ranking Republican on the Senate Finance Committee has worked out a bipartisan compromise with his good friend Senator Max Baucus (D-MT) to continue the State Children’s Health Insurance Program (SCHIP) past its September 30 expiration date.The plan currently covers 6.6 million low income kids and would cover

can you guess what this is?

Note to self: Write blog post before goofy with exhaustion.

"Cavalcade of Risk" is Up Over At "Sentinel Effect"

Richard Eskow has more than two dozen carefully selected posts from the world of insurance blogs up over at his "Sentinel Effect."Richard has put a lot of time into giving us a wide array of good work.

milestone

My baby packed his bag and hit the road today.

My nine year old son, ready for a playdate and sleepover at his friend's house, packed his own overnight gear (with some prompting from me, "Toothbrush? Underwear? Stuffed animals?"), stuck his helmet on his head, hopped on his bike and rode off.

"Bye! See you tomorrow!"

He was adamant that I not accompany him.

I told him to call when he got there.

I rushed into the house and called his friend, "S. is on his way. Make sure he phones me as soon as he arrives."

Five minutes later, he did (it was only six blocks, after all).

He was fine.

I, on the other hand, am a little traumatized.

"Government Subsidies That halve Premiums Would Cut Number of Uninsured by 3%"--No Surprise There But it Was the Wrong Question

That's the headline on a story regarding a Rand study that says giving people subsidies won't do much to decrease the number of those uninsured.But here's the problem with that study: Paying for half the cost of health insurance that averages more than $11,000 for a family in the U.S. still makes health insurance prohibitively expensive for all but the well off.As I posted yesterday, voluntary

anxious

I've been feeling a low level anxiety for the last few days.

I'm not sure if I am unsure about my future, waiting for the other shoe to drop or simply stressed that my sweetie's passport has not yet arrived in advance of our trip to Chicago.

Last night I felt stuck in a loop. I can't remember the dream I kept having but I kept waking up in a panic, calming myself down and then having the same dream again. I woke up exhausted.

I was too exasperated distracted during the day by the antics of two nine year old boys ("Please close the door before the cat gets out. Please close the door. Indoor voices, please. I don't want to talk about vomit. Please don't talk with your mouth full. Stop spraying the cat with the water bottle. I really don't want to talk about vomit. No, you can't play with the paper shredder. I will give you ice cream , if you go eat it outside and leave me alone") but this evening the funny feeling returned to the pit of my stomach.

It helped to knit in front of the television tonight (although please remind me never to watch Law and Order, SVU again, no matter how desperate I am); I find the process very soothing. My mitered squares are perfect and relaxing (each little square is a satisfying project unto itself. If I never get around to sewing, I'll have 120 beautiful pot holders).

And, now I am off to bed (much too late). I am hoping for a dreamless and uninterrupted sleep.

California Health Care Reform—An Individual Mandate is Nowhere Near as Important as Affordable Health Insurance

California is entering the final weeks of a major effort to reform the state’s health insurance system.Good for them and in particular good for Governor Schwarzenegger who is willing to tackle this most prickly of domestic policy issues!The Governor and the legislature will need to get a deal done by the end of September if it is going to happen in this session—or maybe for a long time to come.As

faces

I love this pic, with my face and my son's in profile and our friend in the painting looking over our shoulders.

I also love how shaggy my hair looks. I have hair!

And new specs.

I love the relationship captured in this moment.

And I love how healthy I look.

President Bush is Not Backing Down on His SCHIP Veto Threat

The President is sticking to his guns over his threatened veto of the Senate Finance Committee bipartisan deal to reauthorize and expand the State Children's Health Insurance Plan (SCHIP) at a cost of $35 billion. The deal would expand S-CHIP and pay for it with a big 61 cent cigarette tax--taking the federal per pack tax to $1.A White House spokesman said on Saturday that his advisers "will

The Latest Health Wonk Review is Up

Here's a summary from the latest edition over at "Colorado Health Insurance Insider:"The Health Wonk Review is THE top health policy roundup in the blogosphere. It’s known for only including the best and brightest, and only the keenest observations of the health policy community. The collection of articles below represent the cream of the crop of recent entries in the ongoing US health care

a storied week end

First story:

"Play with me!"

The call came at 7:00 am on Saturday morning. I dragged myself out of bed (D.'s big brother was at a sleepover, so I couldn't bribe him to look after his younger sibling).

"What do you want to play?", I asked wearily.

"Uncle Wiggily," came the reply.

I groaned. This game, which consists of moving a plastic rabbit along a path (the pieces are moved along based on the number on a card drawn by the player. Each card also has a poem that D. insists we read. Every time) has been played many, many, many times of late.

I played dutifully, if somewhat grudgingly, and definitely groggily. D. asked about one of the characters on the board and I remembered that a booklet, lost long ago, with a story had come with the game.

I googled Uncle Wiggily and found a link to a trove of stories, courtesy of Project Gutenberg. There are thirty-one Uncle Wiggly stories (they were written by Howard R. Garis).

And we started to read, no video, not even any pictures, just the sound of my voice as we cuddled on the couch. At the end of each story (which is always a cliffhanger), D. would ask for another. We broke for breakfast, then read a few more.

We had an amazing morning, filled with stories written for children ninety-five years ago.

Second story:

Saturdays are library days in my house. Usually, this is something that D. and I do but this past week end, my older son and his best friend decided to come along.

I left the older boys to peruse the graphic novels (and I have to share that an elderly gentleman went out of his way to let me know how polite they were) while I took D. to the children's section.

After we'd checked out our books, we sat at a picnic table outside the library, with the older boys on one side pouring over their haul, and D. and I with our backs to them on the other, reading a book about hockey. The dog lay contentedly at my feet.

It was a lovely tableau (and the looks on the faces of passersby confirmed this).

Third (and final) story:

Yesterday, my older son, S. and I went to see Harry Potter and the Order of the Phoenix (in IMAX and 3D!).

I honestly thought this was everything a movie should be. Fun, engrossing, beautiful. The time flew by. I looked over at one point (during the 3D part) and saw my nine year old son, reaching out to grab at an object on the screen. It really did feel that real.

We are very much looking forward to the publication of the final book, next week.

I have loved books and their stories for as long as I can remember. And I am so pleased and proud that my children (and my spouse) love reading as much as I do.

Key Republican Senators Call on President Bush Not to Veto S-CHIP Reauthorization--A President Acting Like He Has Nothing to Lose

On Thursday I commented on the Senate Finance deal to reauthorize the State Children's Health Insurance Plan (S-CHIP). The bipartisan deal calls for a $35 billion expansion of the program, reversing state efforts to use it to cover adults, and pays for it with a whopping new 61 cent per pack tobacco tax.Yesterday, two very important Republican members--Grassley and Hatch--of the Senate Finance

"Those Crazy Californians. This Time Its Childhood Obesity."

That's the title of Brian Klepper's recent post over at the Blog, "The Doctor Weighs In."He mentions my recent post on this and takes it further. It's a good read.Here's the first part and a link to the rest:California always seems to be ahead on things that matter. A CNN story this week highlights that state's terrific anti-obesity TV campaign. The ads have cute kids sweetly asking "Dad, could

United Health Launches a New Health Plan That Rewards Healthy Workers--Immediately Criticized for "Turning Health Care Into a Police State."

Under a new program announced by United Health, health plan participants who take tests and other evaluations to prove they are meeting goals for blood pressure, cholesterol, height/weight ratio, and smoking status would be eligible to receive $500 reductions in their health plan deductible ($1,000 family) for every goal met.The plan starts out with a $2,000 single/$5,000 family deductible.In a

Senate Finance Committee Reaches Bipartisan Agreement to Fund S-CHIP Expansion With a Tobacco Tax--No Cuts to Medicare Advantage

The Senate Finance Committee has reached a tentative agreement to expand the State Children’s Health Insurance Program (S-CHIP) by increasing the tobacco tax by another 61 cents—for a total per pack federal tax of $1. With state taxes, the average per pack tax would rise to about $1.68.Under the agreement, the Senate would not go forward with any Medicare Advantage cuts to fund S-CHIP.While 2

treated and home

And stoned.

My counts were just high enough today to go ahead.

As usual, the Demerol-Gravol cocktail made me very stoned very fast.

I think it is very amusing for anyone with me, including the oncology nurses.

I fell asleep during treatment, came home and slept for four and a half more hours.

I am still stoned, but happy that I do not need to go back until July 31st.

I will post a more substantial blog when my fingers more readily type the words my brain wants them to.

cancelled

Chemo was cancelled due to low neutrophils (the white blood cells that fight infection) today. I went in by myself for the first time (which was fine, thanks to a borrowed cd player and a talking book) and was, frankly shocked when they sent me home (they won't administer chemotherapy if neutrophils dip below 1.0. Mine were at o.8. And they didn't bother with Herceptin, since I have to go back for chemo anyway).

But now I'm feeling pretty run down and my throat is scratchy. I took the dog out for a walk and couldn't go for more than a few blocks. I am wiped out.

The power of suggestion or am I really run down?

I'll find out tomorrow when I go back to the cancer centre, get bloodwork done again, wait for results and then either go home or get treated.

I'm hoping I get treated, since the rest of the summer has been pretty much plotted out. The kids are in camp when they need to be, off when I will be feeling well and we have planned a couple of getaways (including the trip to Chicago).

I have plans, dammit.

I'll keep you posted.

The Best 39 Minutes You Can Spend Understanding the Various National Health Systems

NPR's "Fresh Air" broadcast a 39-minute interview with Jonathan Oberlander, a political scientist with expertise in health care politics and policy and the University of North Carolina at Chapel Hill.Studying other systems is important as we in America look to reform our health care system. Unfortunately, we hear many things out of context and some outright myths.Listening to Professor Oberlander

Can the Democrats Take the Health Care Agenda Back? S-CHIP is the First Test and the Test is On

The debate over how the State Children's Health Insurance Plan (S-CHIP) will be reauthorized is really about whether the Democrats can finally take the health care agenda back from the Republicans.If the Congress cuts private Medicare plan payments to pay for a bigger S-CHIP, it will be a double whammy--a bigger government health plan and potentially a smaller private Medicare program.Congress is

"Sicko" Revenue Wanes at the Box Office--Why Didn't "Sicko" Resonate?

The Michael Moore movie about the U.S. health care system's problems, "Sicko," had incredible press before its debut. Moore appeared on the likes of Larry King, Leno, and Letterman, and about everywhere else in the days before its premier to hype his newest critical documentary.Last week when the movie grossed only $4.5 million (putting it in 9th place) supporters pointed out that it only opened

you overwhelm me

I am overwhelmed by all the good wishes I have received via every possible media in the last couple of days. Thank you so much for your love and support.

After the initial rush of joy at learning my good news, I admit to being numb for the next twenty-four hours or so. I couldn't quite believe that the tumours could be gone. It was also really weird to be shocked by good news for a change.

But the shock has worn off and now I am positively giddy.

And it gets better. My wonderful friends have given me the most amazing birthday present. I was presented today with a cheque that will completely cover all of my BlogHer expenses (and then some). All of them (except for air travel, which, you may recall, was covered by points from my brother-in-law).

I knew that some money was coming (a couple of people had let this slip). I knew that my friends were making it possible for me to go to Chicago.

But I am completely and utterly overwhelmed by your generosity.

I don't have the words to express my gratitude. I am even a little embarrassed.

And very, very touched.

Planning for BlogHer has been very important. The mere act of making a commitment to attend something several months ahead of time felt like a defiance of cancer. I had to plan on being healthy and fit because I had committed to this trip. The very idea got me through some difficult days and nights.

I have the best friends in the world.

New Tool Kit: Massachusetts Health Reform

Ed Howard and his team at the non-partisan Alliance for Health Reform here in Washington have done another of their great jobs in putting together a resource for anyone interested in the Massachusetts health reform plan.From their overview:"Starting July 1, every adult in Massachusetts is required to have health coverage (except for 60,000 people exempted by the state). To help you understand the

holy sh*t

I learned the results from my CT scan today:

"There has been very substantial response to treatment. Widespread metastatic disease to the liver has regressed remarkably...Very significant response to chemotherapy...the remaining parenchymal nodules and evidence of scarring are difficult to evaluate for viable residual disease."

In other words, they could find no evidence of the cancer, just scars to show where the tumours once were.

The doctor who works with my oncologist said, as she passed me the report, "I want to frame this." She was beaming.

This doesn't mean I can quit chemo (or, especially, Herceptin) but it does mean that, at least over the summer, I will go less frequently (receiving treatment every three weeks).

There are very likely still cancer cells in my body but they appear to be impossible to locate, at the moment.

As my doctor said, "This is as good as it gets."

I am in shock, and completely elated. I keep re-reading my ct scan report and have yet to bring myself to tell anyone (my spouse knows, because he was with me). I was very optimistic that I would at least learn that my tumours were stable and was hoping for even better news. But this, honestly, is almost beyond my wildest dreams.

I have some thoughts on why my health has improved so much and how I do feel that there is a two-tiered health care system but I'll save that for another day.

Going to go pinch myself now.

The Market Has a Place in Health Care But It Also Has Its Limits

Every leading health care proposal today includes a place for the market. Some believe government should run it all and then there are those who believe the real solution lies in just letting an unfettered market get it all done.Health care is not like buying a set of tires. We lose our market-driven objectivity pretty quickly when we are faced with scary medical decisions for ourselves or for

off to the spa

The month-long birthday extravaganza begins today (I am turning 40 on August 4th). I am off to the spa with my friend D. until tomorrow morning. Until then, as a last nod to Canada's birthday (I was a Centennial baby. Canada is one hundred years older than I am), I give you the Yarn Harlot and her Canadian A-Z (that would a to zed, if you don't mind).

Finally, D. started at the day care in his new school today (he starts JK in the fall). To say that he was eager and ready is an understatement. On the way over he made us practice our lines: "You say, 'Have a good day, son.'"

I think my children may watch too much television.

happy belated canada day

Outside of our nation's capital, Canada Day is a pretty laid back affair. Oh, there are fireworks, free concerts, parties and lots, and lots of backyard barbecues, but it all pales in comparison to the festivities in Ottawa.

My adopted home town is, generally speaking, a pretty staid place. But on Canada Day, the city pulls out all the stops. Tens of thousands descend on Parliament Hill (and dozens of satellite venues) to celebrate and thousands more take the partying to the streets (including the two young clean cut guys I saw casually strolling and sharing a doob, as I sat on my friends' front steps in the heart of downtown - across from a very busy park and mere blocks from the city's main cop shop). Everywhere you look, folks are decked out in red and white (I was wearing blue and grey but that's really all that was clean).

To be perfectly honest, I have always found it to be a little much. I think this comes in part from living so close to a university. Having drunken students littering the streets is one thing, but listening to shouted obscenities at four in the morning and the sound of tomatoes hitting my fence (yes, this has happened) is quite another (I shuddered with horror yesterday afternoon when I realized that the frat boys across the street were drinking from pails, then it occurred to me that twenty years ago, I might have been there, drinking with them, and just as oblivious to my neightbours. I was more alternative-crunchy-granola than frat friendly, but I don't think the more progressive epithets made one whit of difference to our long-suffering neighbours).

And the thing, is, I'm kind of uncomfortable with nationalism (this has been reinforced after 16 years of living with a secular Jew who majored in History at university). So many horrific things, around the world and here at home, have been done in the name of nationhood.

However, I am proud to be Canadian. While we have leagues to go until we match the values we purport to espouse (hello aboriginal poverty, residential schools, the Chinese Head Tax, and the incarceration of Japanese Canadians during WWII, to name just a few things for which we have to atone), this country is a pretty good place to live.

There are many things I appreciate about Canada, some intangible (or at least beyond my ability to articulate at this late hour. I'd start with the fact that we're funny and living next to the giant next door gives us a pretty good sense of perspective) and some more concrete (like good beer, great music, gay marriage and the extra letter we throw into a whole bunch of words). Chief among them, though, is our social safety net. It's somewhat tattered for sure, but it's existence is one of the things that defines us.

Life as a cancer patient has really brought this home for me. There have been glitches along the way for sure but generally speaking, the Canadian health care system has been very good to me.
And I am very grateful indeed that I have never had to chose between chemotherapy and feeding my children.

So this is what I wish for Canada, in it's 141st year - a renewal of our commitment to comprehensive health coverage for every Canadian, regardless of where she or he may live. Oh, and a national pharmacare programme (to ensure that prescription drugs are available to all who need them) is long overdue as well.

Happy birthday, Canada!

May the sangria (red like the flag) flow freely and the barbecues be hot for many years to come.

I had a very good time on your birthday this year.

i need to be sexier

I was checking in at the Junky's Wife this morning and learned that if you follow this link, you can find out how your blog would be rated.

The only content standing between me and a G rating, apparently, were references to 'pain' and 'death'.

Apparently they didn't dig back far enough into the archives. What about 'boob'? Or this story, about exotic dancers? I guess this blog isn't very sexy. Or violent.

And why is 'pain' problematic?